Attila and I have just started to make some new friends from our ECFE class and now I just found out this week that they are going to be moving to California in February. It's too bad because the little girl is only 2 weeks younger than Attila and they were so cute playing together. It kind of takes me a long time to work up to becoming friendly with new people and so even though we've been in class together since September, we were just starting to work up to the "should we go have bagels" or "should we meet at the mall play area on tuesday?" phase of a friendship. The other people in the class are nice too- but we haven't really hit it off or had much in common. So now, I feel like I have to start all over. *sigh* It's hard to make new friends. I think I have learned to be a pretty extroverted person, but it's still hard. Or at least, I only cringe on the inside while I make a fool of myself. (Tara is moving to San Diego and the only thing I could think to say about that was that at least they have good weather and a great zoo. Then I mentioned "Three's Company" and how that was the zoo they were at during the opening credits. I even sang a little "Come and knock on our door..." Such. A. Huge. Dork! No wonder it's hard for me to make new friends!) I much prefer it when you don't have to try quite so much and you just hit it off with a coworker or someone else that you run into frequently. I hate the whole small talk that we do. "Where are you from? Do you work? What do/did you do? What does your husband do? Is she your first?" etc. etc. It's painful and awful and I hate it. But at the same time, I would like to know some women who SAH with babies who are Attila's age, so that we have the option of not always going places by ourselves. It helps the day. Anyway, maybe some new kids/moms will join for the second semester in January. Or maybe we will find some other classes or activities to do. I never thought I would be driving the stay/work at home mom bus and it takes a while to get adjusted.
November 16, 2006
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Oh man, can I relate to your pain! Yeah, it's hard to go out and try to MAKE friends instead of just letting it evolve through work or whatever. When you're not around other adults regularly and casually, you have to work at it.
The good news - it can happen! In fact, we're having Pumpkin's favorite friend from Gymboree (who we've had over for playdates and been over there for same) and her parents and her little baby sister over for supper tomorrow for the first time. Yay!
Even though I don't have a kid I can relate. Especially about the "learned extrovertednes" It doesn't come naturally to me either. It was really hard moving to the desert and not knowing anyone. Then as I make friends here at work they are here for a year or 2 if I'm lucky and then they leave. *sigh* What's funny, AKJ, is that I always think of you as an outgoing person who easily makes friends! You are a fine actor! :)
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